Christmas Music

Tracey Thorn - Tinsel and Lights

It’s that time of year. You might be thinking: “No, Joanna, it’s not, because I don’t listen to Christmas music until after Thanksgiving,” but listen: Thanksgiving is a full week later this year than it usually is, and I’m not going to be robbed of a couple of weeks of my favorite seasonal tunes just because of a damn calendar. You’re not the boss of me.

Whenever someone (Oprah) tells people that they should make a career out of what they love doing, and follow your bliss, and all of that, the first thing that I think is: “Nobody is ever going to pay me money to listen to Christmas music, that is just straight nonsense.”

Although, to be fair, I do not like most of the Christmas music which is out there.  I have a playlist called “Christmas test” which I dump the new Christmas music in every year, and I listen to all of it (science!), and only about 1% makes the cut. Duck the Halls, for instance, did not make the cut.

Here are my favorites! (All links are to Spotify playlists.)

Dean Martin - A Winter Romance

These are my three playlists, which I add to and prune every year. You might call them my life’s work. (No, wait, please don’t call them that.)

christmas: coffee – a playlist of mellow tunes to listen to while you’re drinking your coffee and watching the lights blink on the tree (or making out, whatever, I’m not judging)
christmas: crafting and cooking – a mix of old and new songs to play in the background while you glue sequins and roll dough, heavy on the indie rock
christmas: cocktail party – upbeat classics, heavy on the crooners

My all-time favorite full albums (all of which were on Spotify as of this posting):

Mariah Carey - Merry Christmas

The Classics

  • Frank Sinatra – A Jolly Christmas
  • Ella Fitzgerald – Ella Wishes You a Swinging Christmas
  • Various Artists – A Christmas Gift for You from Phil Spector
  • Perry Como – A Perry Como Christmas
  • The Beach Boys – The Beach Boys’ Christmas
  • Mariah Carey – Merry Christmas
  • Vince Guaraldi Trio – A Charlie Brown Christmas
  • Various Artists – A Motown Christmas

A Very She and Him Christmas

Newer Favorites (Traditional)

  • Kelly Clarkson – Wrapped in Red
  • She & Him – A Very She & Him Christmas
  • Mary J. Blige – A Mary Christmas

Newer Favorites (Indie Rock/Indie Pop

  • Tracey Thorn – Tinsel and Lights
  • The Rosebuds – Christmas Tree Island
  • Emmy the Great – This Is Christmas
  • Aimee Mann – One More Drifter in the Snow
  • Low – Christmas

Any of your favorites who you can’t believe I’ve overlooked? (Don’t say Sufjan. I love him, too! But he’s released like a gazillion Christmas songs at this point and I can only tolerate listening to 2 of them.)

Back in Time

You might have noticed that this blog has been pretty silent lately.

I’ve been thinking about it, and what I want to do with it, and whether I want to have a blog at all anymore. What I’ve been thinking about is how much I miss the way that the internet was in my teens and early 20s when having a website felt more like initiating a dialogue and less like holding up a megaphone.

I’m going to do a little experiment. I’m starting an email newsletter type of thing.

2001 webcam pic

2001: when my website had a webcam

I did this once before, in the early 2000s, and it was intensely pleasurable for me. Possibly because I started a pen pal relationship with one of the people who subscribed to my list, and then later I married him.

If you subscribe, you’ll get a maximum of one email from me per week. I don’t know yet exactly what it will be about, but probably the stuff you’re used to seeing here, just a little more personal.

In an ideal world, if you want to respond to me, you’ll email me back and we’ll have a conversation. If you’d rather just read it, delete it, and go about your day: that’s okay, too.

The idea is to create something ephemeral which comes directly to you and feels more like an interaction.

If this appeals to you, sign up. If not, then things are going to stay pretty quiet around here. I might do a post or two around the holidays.

Smooch.

31 Days of Watching Women

I have decided that in the month of July, I will only be consuming media where 50% (or more) of the cast is female.

Parks and Recreation

Parks and Recreation

I did a quick survey this morning to see which of my recent favorites would be set aside for the month. This project eliminates pretty nearly all of the podcasts that I listen to, most of the television shows I watch, and the vast majority of the movies in the theater right now. I immediately sank into a funk.

When I announced this project on Facebook, my pal Jason asked where I drew the line. My kneejerk reaction was to say that the cast which appears in the opening credits, but after talking with Jason and Matt, I’ve decided that this isn’t a very good measure. Depending on how the show does the credit sequence, the cast list could have more to do with popularity or how good of an agent the actor has, and not much to do with how prominent her character is.

The Sapphires

The Sapphires

IMDB’s cast listing is a better measure for television shows, since it lists characters by total number of episodes they appear in, but that still didn’t feel…right.

Call the Midwife

Call the Midwife

What these lists don’t take into consideration is whether the show really has anything to do with those characters—whether they are central to the story or strictly supporting roles.

Bomb Girls

Bomb Girls

Keeping in mind of all of the above, I’m going to go against my nature and ditch methodology altogether. I won’t be counting names and running numbers. I will be looking to the stories. For a month, I want to consume media which is actually about women, in equal balance to stories about men. As much as possible, I want to consume current media, so no falling back on episodes of Buffy. (I will watch reruns of Parks and Recreation, because I would be doing that, anyway.)

I wonder how I will feel at the end of July. I wonder if I’ll be able to go back to listening to and watching mostly men, day in, day out. It should be interesting. I’ll tell you about it in a month.

Vida Vegan Con: After Hours

karaoke with Kelly and Jessica

Girls, what’s my weakness? Karaoke with Kelly and Jessica. photo by Ross Abel

I would be remiss if I didn’t dedicate a Vida Vegan Con 2013 post—the last one, I swear, I know the conference was over a month ago and I’ve dragged this out long enough—to all the fun which was had when the classes and panels were over for a day. It’s not for nothing that attendees refer to VVC as vegan summer camp, or as my crew started tagging our Instagram photos: Wet Hot Vegan Summer. There was a lot of silliness, and those kinds of fast friendships which form at summer camp where you spend an intense few days with someone and then you can’t imagine how you ever lived without them.

I can’t speak to anything which happened behind closed doors, but the good times which happened in public, with a microphone, and all your favorite 90s hits? Fair game.

I’m sharing a few my remaining favorite photos from Vida Vegan Con 2013, some of my own and some of my friends’ (credited, of course).

Pop-up shop at the Vegan Mini-Mall:

Joanna is a raptor

My pal Ross has this thing where he pretends to be a raptor, so this is my attempt to raptor. I need to work on my claws. Photo by Ross Abel

Pop up shop

Chatting with Ami and Wes

Red and Black

I don’t know what Kurt is telling Joni and me about here, but I’m clearly super excited about it. Photo by Ross Abel

Vida Vegan Con Galarama:

foxy mamas

Kittee, Mo, and Kim (taken by Erika)

Amey and Joanna

Amey took a series of selfies and I love this one of the two of us

Erika champagne series

Erika posed with a ton of people at the Galarama, drinking champagne in every pic. Amazing!

ladies at Galarama

I love these ladies: Laura, me, Chelsea, Marie. Photo by Daniel.

Karaoke post-Galarama:

Wes

Wes, feeling like a woman

Jason Das

I think I captured something essential about Jason here

Isa

Isa, being awesome as if it’s her job

PPK IRL party:

Julia and John

Julia Legume and John and nature in the background doing it’s thing

Kelly and Jackie dancing

Kelly and Jackie dancing <3

I could go on and on and on. I wish that I had taken more photos, especially because I don’t have any decent non-dark, non-blurry photo of some of my most favorite people, like my sister-from-another-mister Jenna. There wasn’t enough time. There’s never enough time!

Can’t wait to see you guys at the next Vida Vegan Con.

Zines, Glorious Zines!

page of Potluck Mania

page from my Potluck Mania zine, Issue 1

Amey and Kittee and I led a workshop about zines at Vida Vegan Con 2013, and it was great fun—both the planning and the execution of—but I wanted to follow up with a very quick post about my process of digital zine creation, because it is so different from the copy-collate-staple method.

Amey has written a really great post about her process, in case you get halfway through this and decide that digital is for the birds. (I wouldn’t blame you if you did.) If you need inspiration, Kittee hosts a Vegan Cook-Zine Museum at PakuPaku that is a true treasure trove of cookzine love.

Onwards! Joanna’s Down and Dirty Digital Zine Creation, intentionally unordered, because you might get to steps 3 or 4 and realize that you really need to rethink step 2…

    • Determine your audience. Knowing who your audience is going to be is going to inform every other decision you make. The zine I would make for my parents and in-laws might be very different from the zine I would make for my blog readers.
    • Zero in on a theme. I know my pal Kittee is somewhere shaking her fist at the use of the word “theme,” but even if your theme is as loose as “20 vegan recipes I like,” you should be able to sum up the contents of your zine in one sentence. It need not be a cookzine, people! One of my favorite digital zines is my friend Jay’s anthology of his website, The Plug.
The Plug, Anthology Volume 1

The Plug, Anthology Volume 1

  • Figure out what your zine will look like.Full-size magazine size? Pocket-size? 24 pages? 36? If you’re comfortable with Photoshop, you may want to design the entire thing yourself—the way that I did the Potluck Mania zines shown here—editing PSDs and then saving as PDFs when they’re done. If you go that route, I recommend purchasing some digital scrapbooking templates to make your project look especially sleek and polished. They were an invaluable resource to me when I was creating Potluck Mania. If you’re not as design-savvy, you may want to skip ahead a couple of steps: choose a publisher, download one of their templates, and cut and paste directly in the template.
    page from Potluck Mania Issue 1

    page from my Potluck Mania Issue 1

  • If you have no idea what you want your zine to look like, a good way to figure this out: Start typing. Writing your zine in a word processing software will give you some idea of exactly how much content you have to work with, and besides, you’ll want one text-only version of your zine for easy editing purposes.
  • Now that you’re getting a feel for what your final product will look like, it’s time to pick a publisher/distributor.1 One of the main advantages to creating your zine digitally, as far as I’m concerned, is that once you’ve finished your project, you are done. There is no need for you to spend big bucks up front to print your zine, or to set up a virtual storefront, or to go to the post office multiple times a week. Online publishers are print-on-demand, and they mail the zine to your customer for you. I use (and really love) Amazon’s createspace. I get monthly payments from Amazon and a yearly tax form, but otherwise, I don’t have to do anything at all. I’ve included a screenshot below of the first page of the project creation process. See that you have the choice between “Guided” and “Expert”? The Guided process makes it easy for literally anyone to create the final digital file. Createspace offers a wide choice of templates which you can just cut and paste your project into.

    Amazon's createspace interface

    Amazon’s createspace interface

That’s it!

Hopefully this has demystified digital zine creation for you, and you are already planning your next zine. If so, I want to hear all about it.

1I know what you might be thinking here: “Hey, Joanna, isn’t the entire point of digital zine creation that you don’t have to publish it? Your customer can just download the file to the device of their choice and never have to bother with a hard copy? ” Yes, totally! That might be a big selling point for you! Personally, I prefer to have physical copies of things, especially cookbooks, so this tutorial addresses publishing. If you don’t want to publish, then you can stop right here.

Vida Vegan Con 2013: The Conference

blind taste testing during Vegan Battle Royale

blind taste testing during Vegan Battle Royale

Confession time! I’ve been putting off writing about Vida Vegan Con 2013 because I knew that there was a solid chance1 that I would be in tears before I was even halfway finished writing about it.

Let me put the gratitude right up top where it belongs: I feel so grateful to Jess, Janessa, and Michele for all of the hard and thoughtful work they have put into organizing this conference. I have attended a lot of events—many of which had dozens upon dozens of people who were paid to work on them as their full-time jobs—and they were not as successful as Vida Vegan Con. Not even close! These woman are amazing. Ladies, you are my heroes, I want to be you when I grow up.

I don’t want to rehash what has already been said elsewhere by others, so I will start by linking to some of my favorite Vida Vegan Con 2013 recaps:

My VVC2013 highlights:

Joanna, Kittee, Amey lead zine workshop

Joanna, Kittee, Amey lead zine workshop, photo by Amey’s mom!

The zine class with Kittee and Amey. I have a whole separate entry planned about zines, so I will just say that I cherished the time spent planning this class with these weird and wonderful women and having a chance to share our love of zines with others, and I’m glad that we ended up doing this in the Library at the Portland Art Museum, because the setting was right on: small, reverent, intimate, book-focused! So totally perfect.

Sayward, Susan, Dreena, and me at the Privacy Lines and Oversharing panel

Sayward, Susan, Dreena, and me at the Privacy Lines and Oversharing panel, photo borrowed from Sayward

The Privacy Lines & Oversharing Panel with Sayward, Susan, and Dreena. This is a topic which is near and dear to my heart. I have been sharing my life online for 18 years, which is over half my life and all of my adult life. Over the course of time, I’ve drawn and redrawn the boundaries of what I’m comfortable sharing, and I think that the biggest takeaways from the panel—the points all of the panelists agreed on— were: 1) ask permission from the people in your life before sharing their stories or images and 2) only you can define what is right for you, and you need to be prepared to police yourself and possibly even others if it means protecting your privacy (and that of your loved ones).

However, I will say that my most-quoted (or: tweeted) moment from the panel was when I said, off the cuff: “A lifestyle blog without your personal life is just a Tumblr.” I love blogs where people talk about their lives, including—especially!—the messy bits. That is the good stuff! Leave the aspirational blogging to A Beautiful Mess2 and please write about what you’re struggling with, and then send me your URL, because I want to read it, and comment on it, and become friends with you.

Cool, my eyes are already welling up with tears, so let’s just plow right forward onto:

The Body Image and Acceptance panel. I strongly recommend reading Michele’s wrap-up of the panel. This was a powerful discussion, and I will admit that I pretty much sat in the back and let tears stream down my face. Then many of us who were there took that discussion and continued it at our lunch tables with our peers who were unable to attend. And brought it up again later over drinks. I sincerely hope that the discussions continue: in our homes, on our blogs, and in our brains. I know that I have to have serious sit-down conversations with my brain about this issue on a daily basis. The conversations are going better today than they were five years ago, much better than they were ten years ago, and infinitely better than they were when I was 12 years old and I went to Weight Watchers for the first time. I still have a long way to go, and now I have a small person who watches everything I do and takes everything I say way too seriously, and that, my friends, has really upped the ante.

Mo, Kittee, and Amey

Mo, Kittee, and Amey: our hostesses with the mostesses of Vegan Battle Royale

Vegan Battle Royale. Holy moly: Kittee and Amey and Mo outdid themselves with the pub quiz style trivia contest this year. Amey wrote it up, but I just want to add that: I would attend an entire conference which was just this. Seriously. Can someone make that happen?

That wonderful coffee station. There were several of these little coffee stations set up at the conference that had coffee, tea, and then every single thing you could imagine to add to it. I fell in love with it a little bit, no joke.

The next entry I have planned is about zines, and then I plan to wrap this up with a post about the, uh, extra-curricular fun. Did you miss the one about the pre-conference fun?

1 110% chance
2 I love A Beautiful Mess! I also love Martha Stewart Living. I read them religiously. Do I relate to them? Not at all, not even a tiny little bit.

Vida Vegan Con 2013: Pre-Conference Fun in Portland

Meeting up with friends at Bye and Bye

Meeting up with friends at Bye and Bye

This is the first of a few posts I’ll be writing about my experience attending Vida Vegan Con 2013 in Portland, and I decided that this one should be about the pre-conference fun, because those two days really set the tone for what ended up becoming the theme for the entire week: wonderful conversations with friends over stellar meals and cocktails.

I intentionally planned my trip so that I had a few days before the conference to spend time with friends and visit my favorite Portland haunts, and I’m so glad that I did. Once the conference officially started on Friday, I got swept up in the momentum and just let myself be carried along on the current—which was non-stop for three straight days.

By contrast, I spent my first two days in Portland leisurely walking around the city, eating, drinking, and spending time with dear friends, and it was totally blissful. I didn’t get to spend nearly as much time with any of my friends as I wanted to, but that would have been impossible. There is never enough time.

A few photos:

Vegan Potatoes at Junior's

Vegan Potatoes at Junior’s, favorite breakfast in Portland

hazelnut milk latte and the S.O.S. at Sweetpea

hazelnut milk latte and the S.O.S. at Sweetpea

Michelle, Kim, Kittee!

Michelle, Kim, Kittee!

Check out the hoodies, coats, and scarves on my pals in these pictures! It was in the high 50s/mid 60s and raining for most of my visit to Portland. Anything else would have been strange, although since my primary mode of transportation was by foot—I estimated I walked around 11 miles over the course of two days—I was finding the perpetual drizzling significantly less charming when my clothes and shoes were soaked through and I didn’t have the option of swinging by my house to do a quick change into something warm and dry.

For me, the conference unofficially began on Thursday afternoon when my girl Joni tweeted at me that she was at Hungry Tiger, Too, and was I still at Sweetpea (two blocks away) and did I want to join? Of course I did, so I gathered up my things and headed over to hang out with what I now thing of fondly as my Mississippi crew: Joni, Kelly, Louzilla, Jackie, and Michelle.

Joni at Hungry Tiger, Too

Joni is adorable, even when I commit the ultimate photography sin and take a backlit picture

Here is how I knew that I was amongst my people: as soon as the food arrived, literally every person at the table whipped out her phone or camera to take pictures of the food. So of course, I had to document all the documentation:

Kelly, Michelle, Jackie, and Lou instagramming their hearts out

Kelly, Michelle, Jackie, and Lou Instagramming their hearts out

In her VVC wrapup, Kelly referred to this as the Year of the Instagram, and it was seriously true. At the first VVC, I kept up with what my fellow attendees were doing via Facebook and Twitter. Not this time. If I wanted to know where the action was, I just looked on Instagram.

From here, we walked to the White Owl Social Club, where the first Meet and Greet of VVC 2013 was happening. When we got there, it was already packed to the gills. Vegans as far as the eye could see. I quickly ordered a drink and nabbed a booth in the far corner of the bar, ostensibly so that I could have the best view in the house, but in reality, it’s because my introvert nature shouted: “RETREAT, RETREAT!” Little did I know, but it was really just beginning.

I spent the rest of that very long and crazy night hanging out mostly with the Austin crew: Ross, Marie, Daniel, and Wes, but we also managed to rope in Chelsea, Sayward, and new friend Emily into our fold. A few photos from Thursday night:

mac and cheese burger at White Owl

Marie took this picture of my first bite of a vegan mac and cheese burger at White Owl. This should be my new social media icon, right?

 

Fun at The Sweet Hereafter

And a few hours later, Marie took this photo of us at The Sweet Hereafter

So, yeah. Good times were had. And the conference hadn’t even begun yet…

A Day of Firsts

Megan, Henry, and Milo at Bouldin Creek Cafe

The pictures in this post are from this past weekend, where we had so much fun hanging out with friends Megan, Mike, Henry, and Zelda.

Yesterday was a day of firsts:

  • Our first time having to take Milo to Urgent Care, which is how we found out about
  • Milo’s first ear infection — in both ears. We think that he had a mild cold last week and that the plane travel just exacerbated it. I am working from home today because I couldn’t bear to leave him, but it became clear after hour one that my worry was completely unnecessary. Now that the ear pain is being treated, he thinks this whole thing is pretty great. Unlimited cartoons! Medicine that tastes like bubble gum! Extra attention from mom and dad!
  • Finally: the first time Milo has posted a PG-13 rated video on the internet.
Henry and Milo

Henry and Milo getting on like gangbusters

Yesterday, Milo used Matt’s phone to post a video of me. A video in which I was lying on the couch in my underwear.

We didn’t find out about it for 5 hours, at which point Matt immediately deleted the video, but then he noticed that Milo had also managed to post it to Twitter. So, I’m guessing that some strangers saw me in my underwear this week. Possibly even you! Really it was no more than they would see if we all went swimming together, but it goes without saying that it’s not something I would have posted of myself.

Milo at Sweet Ritual

Milo enjoying vegan chai ice cream at Sweet Ritual

I freaked out for about 10 minutes. We were sitting in the the Urgent Care clinic waiting room at the time, so it was a very mild freaking out, but still.

Finally, I came around to the realization that: a) I couldn’t do anything about it at this point, and b) Bodies! We all have them!

I have worked very hard the past few years to get to the place where I love my body. Why have I done (am continuing to do, every day) that hard work if not to get to a place where I can say: “Yep, that’s my body!” and just move on? I sat there, in the Urgent Care clinic, and waited for my pulse to slow and the blood to drain out of my face, and I did the best to talk to myself about it and kick my critical inner voice in the ass, and move on.

Zelda eating ice cream

Believe it or not, this was one scoop of chocolate ice cream at Sweet Ritual

Now the remaining issue is: how to talk about it with Milo without making him think that the body is something to be ashamed of? So far, we have taken the approach of: “Don’t post anything to the internet unless Mommy and Daddy say it’s okay,” but eventually we’ll have to have the conversation about what is just for our family and what is for the world at large, and how to differentiate between the two.

I have spent the past week ruminating on all of the conversations I had at Vida Vegan Con, both at the conference and outside of it. Two classes in particular led to some of my most thought-provoking and emotional discussions with friends and peers: Privacy Lines & Oversharing and Body Image Acceptance. And here I am, a week after the conference, dealing with an incident where those two issues intersect. Kids are great about forcing the issues, aren’t they? I can’t wait until he’s a tween and I can tell him this story!

 

Unfollow Is the New Follow

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Will not unfollow: Lauren and Katie Jane

Yesterday, I got back from a week of being in Portland and attending the second Vida Vegan Con. It was such a profoundly inspirational experience that I will need at least a week to process all of the events and conversations before I’m ready to talk about them, but there is one overwhelming impression which I wanted to share with you as soon as possible:

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Will not unfollow: PandaCookie, Jess Scone

There are so. many. vegan. bloggers.

Will not unfollow: Sayward

That is pretty much the biggest duh ever, right? I know! Except that when I first went vegan, there were only a handful. Really, I just counted in my mind, and there were fewer than five. (Kittee‘s PakuPaku was one of them!)

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Will not unfollow: Mo, Kittee, Amey

Now, a dozen or so years later, there are thousands, and I just spent several days with three hundred of the very best of them, and I can’t get over how different we all are from one another.

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Will not unfollow: Kelly

So when I heard in various classes or from a fellow speaker or attendee that she really hates when a blogger she follows engages in a certain activity (likegating, body shaming, inauthentic behavior, presenting yourself as an expert when you’re not, and extreme narcissism were all examples), I couldn’t help but wonder…so why are you still following that blogger?1 You have so many choices! Continuing to read the blog of someone who regularly drives you bonkers is like repeatedly wearing a pair of underwear which always gives you a wedgie. Throw the underwear out. Unfollow the bad blogger.

If you really like the person and hope that they knock it off, you could always come back in few months and check in to see if things have improved. If you hugely respect the person and they’re engaging in activity you find offensive, you could always leave a comment saying why you’re unfollowing. Maybe something along the lines of: “I don’t know if you realize this, but some people find those kinds of words triggering or hurtful, and I’m sad to see you use them. For my own health and sanity, I need to stop following you, but just wanted to reach out and talk to you about it first, because I don’t know if you’re aware of the impact you’re having.”

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Will not unfollow: Laura, Isa, LazySmurf

I decided at the conference that for every time I unfollow a blogger for bad behavior, I’m going to go look for a new vegan blog to follow. Maybe one of the conference attendees, or someone who participated in Vegan MoFo last year. I’m especially going to go out of my way to start reading fledgling blogs, and to give those people lots of comments and support so that they keep going. I’m committed to giving someone new a chance instead of hoping that this other person will miraculously change her ways.

Do I think unfollowing is going to make the offenders into better bloggers? No way. I do know that it will make me happier to only participate in that which inspires, challenges, provokes, and excites me.

1 I should say that I know that some people actively enjoy reading blogs they hate, but this is not about that.

See You Soon, Portland!

portland packing list

I leave for Portland tonight for a few days of friends and favorites before three intense (magical!) Vida Vegan Con days. I can’t wait!

Before leaving, I had intended to share with you some of my favorite Portland haunts, but since the VVCers have been doing “Portland Picks” entries with guest bloggers, that is totally unnecessary. (But if you’re really dying to know my favorites, very little has changed since I wrote about my ideal $40 Portland Day. In fact, I’m planning to do that exact day on Wednesday!)

milo

As excited as I am about this much-needed vacation, I’m also a little anxious, because Matt and Milo will also be having their own little adventure. Two days after I leave for Portland, they’ll be heading off to the East Coast to stay with Matt’s parents for a week, so we’ll be separated for a week and a half. The longest stretch that Milo and I have been apart since he was born was three days. The longest stretch that Matt and I have been apart in the last eight years is six days. I know that I will be missing them both like crazy.

I have been active more active than usual on Instagram lately; I’m “joannavaught” if you’re interested in following me. I have a private account only to prevent spammers from commenting on my pictures, but I authorize all friend requests. I’m in digital marketing, and recently one of my coworkers said to me: “You know, Facebook is out and Instagram is in. None of the kids want to do Facebook anymore because their parents are all on it.” I’m with you, kids!