Comments on: The Depressing One

By: joanna vaught » Blergh

joanna vaught » Blergh — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 17:55:27 +0000

[...] my frustration yesterday, I pulled a classic Joanna, which is to say that I oversimplified what I know to be a complicated [...]

By: sara

sara — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 16:39:35 +0000

not to be overly flippant here, but my level 80 human rogue would like a word with you.

hugs, girl. hang in there.

By: kittee

kittee — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:00:57 +0000

dearest poo poo,
i think there is a big disconnect in the real world, too–though not as huge as the one we see online. i agree with veganmegan, the world is so sad, and people are just trying to get by. i say, keep it real. i will always be honest with you, you be with me too.
xo kittee

By: veganmegan

veganmegan — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 04:02:31 +0000

i think people are trying to escape. be more cheerful cyborgs. It is real sad.

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 01:38:03 +0000

I started thinking about this a lot lately as I’ve tried to simplify a lot of things in my life and figure it out, but my thinking was specifically geared toward my RL friends who never want to discuss the reality of things. I think it comes down to denial: not wanting to admit how bad they are doing, and how much worse it might get.

As far as life online goes, I guess nobody wants to seem like they’re a downer, but I never assume my pals are being downers when they talk about things like that. I guess for every person who says something nice and thoughtful, there’s a person who wants to argue with you because they have their own views about how you should be spending your time/money/etc. I just witnessed (uh, well, read on Facebook…) one of my friends talking about not being able to find a job and paying her car insurance when one of her “friends” commented that “maybe she should get off the Internet, stop complaining and do something about it.” I mean, REALLY? How is that productive?

Okay, I’m rambling. But basically, like A-K said, if there’s anything I can do as an online friend, please let me know. Thinking of you and your family!

By: jess

jess — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 23:52:53 +0000

I hear ya. I’m uncomfortable opening up about my very private life online, aside from emails and the occasional vague private twitter update. I also think the internet is the new reality tv. I also heart you.

By: cara

cara — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 21:44:05 +0000

I do belong to a forum (besides ppk) where people who have known each other for nearly 10 years share the realness of their lives, daily. I know there are more. I don’t use fb (in fact, I deleted my account) and prefer the more private, password-protected forum for personal info. The web has been a tremendous boon for people who are homebound due to illness (such as AIDs) or dealing with things like cancer; they can find others who are similar, deal with issues with that terrific support. Maybe the answer for you is that you CAN talk about it online – in fact, you are, and your post might help others to also share their more real experiences.

Best to you, Joanna. I’m sorry it’s so damn hard.

cara

By: A-K

A-K — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 21:09:52 +0000

I wonder this sometimes too, though maybe I have a few more friends who post depressing status updates… It’s also hard for me right now to feel right blogging/complaining/etc knowing how hard a time people are having with their bills and job security, and with all the horrible things going on in the world. I felt totally disgusted working out at the Y the other night while watching horrific images on the news from Haiti. There is such a terrible disconnect between many people’s realities, and I’m not really sure how to process it right now. Too much thinking and I’ll be sucked into a dark place where I do nothing, which isn’t going to be any more help.

I really hope you are able to sort through the difficult time you’re having right now, and if there’s anything I can do as an internet friend, lemme know. I’ll be thinking of you <3